Thursday, 14 July 2016

Ten things you can do for your PARENTS

#1 - Stop being selfish
Don’t run to your parents only when you need them or do things for the sake of it. Love your parents and care for them, not because they are the authority and will favor you when you are good to them. Instead, put your effort in strengthening the bond and nurturing an healthy relation between you. If you will fake things, they might someday end up turning sour and hurt both of you. Show them you love them, because you do. After all it's lovely to see your parents smile especially when the reason is you.

#2 - Accept your mistake
At the first place, don’t like and even if you end up doing something wrong, don’t hide it. Go and admit your mistake rather than piling up lies and excuses on it. Resolve the issue and realize that you are, may be, wrong and owe an apology to them. They will understand your part and quickly forgive, as soon as you apologize.

#3 - Share their problems
If your parents look stressed, leave everything aside for a few minutes and ask them what is wrong and if you can do anything to help them out. If they don’t want to share then it’s OK, don’t annoy them and be careful of not encroaching in their personal space. And if they choose to share with you, carefully listen without interrupting. Sometimes even you can be the cause of their concern, so stay calm and collected when they speak. And once they complete, console them and try to fix the problematic and even you can’t, at least assure them they need not worry. And no matter what the problem is and whether they speak their heart out or not, make sure try to cheer them up and make sure you hug them or kiss their forehead before you leave.

#4 - Do little things for them
Remember their special events, like birthdays, anniversary or the day you all moved to a new house and celebrate it. You can take them out or purchase a gift for them, do something remarkable. Apart from it, you can prepare breakfast for them on a random day or surprise them with movie tickets. Praise what they cook for you and when it is delicious, go to them and make them taste it with your hands. You can prepare handmade cards or scrapbook for them. You can apply varnish on your mum’s nails or knot a tie for your dad. These little affectionate things convey all that is never said and your parents love to see when their child is respecting family moments.

#5 - Be grateful
They may never say but they have done a lot for you, you may ignore but they love you a lot, they don’t expect anything but it is your duty to do something for them. Even if you can’t do anything for them and are very very busy in enjoying your life and work but at least take some time out to pay gratitude for things they have done for you, the sacrifices they made and loving you even when you totally pissed them off. Do it occasionally, say it with flowers or give a ‘thank you’ card or simply hug them and say ‘Thank you and love you’. Stop pulling away, not only it will make them happy and take you closer to them but will also add to the cherish-able memories for both of you.

#6 - Spend time with your parents
Forget all the tips and stop worrying about how to make parents happy. Just take some time out and be with your parents. For parents children are the best thing that happened to them. But when you ignore them they feel hurt and lonely and as they grow old they are in a constant urge of company. Thus, try to spend some quality time for your parents. You can watch their favorite TV show together or have dinner with them; take them out for a family picnic or you can simply stay at home and have an hearty talk with them.

#7 - Never Argue 
Whatever age or gender you belong to, you can never deny the fact that your parents are more experienced than you, thus you have to think and listen with respect what they have to say and try to agree with them. And if you don’t, then keep your points respectfully in front of them. Don’t ever yell at or argue with them. It will more than making the matter worse, hurt them deep and they will end up believing you don’t respect and need them. Even if it is their mistake, at least listen to them and don’t talk rude with them or blindly criticize them. They only want to do good to you.

#8 - Be responsible 
If you are a responsible child, not only it will make your parents feel proud of you but will establish their trust deeper in you. Take care of your siblings, help them when they need something, don’t disturb your parents much over petty issues. Take care of yourself and be responsible for your actions, excel in whatever you do. Make sure you are truthful to them and don’t do anything which can hurt them. Respect the boundaries they have set for you, but that doesn’t mean you have to restrict yourself from doing what you wish, but just take care that you don’t cross the line so that they don’t have to keep an eye on you. Whatever independence is given to you, be happy with it and make occasional use of it. Too much use of freedom can be troublesome for them. This will make you mature and your parents confident about your actions.

#9 - Be cooperative
Despite everything else, it is your duty to help your parents when they need you or even when they don’t need you. You can do little things for them, like peel the vegetables, trim the grass wash the car for them before they go out, dust off the furniture or take your dog for a walk. Moreover, don’t wish for all the attention and instead you can attend your siblings, at times younger ones can be quite annoying. Let them rest for a while and take some time out for themselves which they miss after having a family. But please don’t go gaga over what you do. Keep doing the things silently and they will eventually notice and feel proud of you.

#10 - Be obedient
As kids grow they start having a mindset of their own and become more decisive about what is right or wrong. They want the complete control of their lives under them. But keep in mind the fact that your parents have done a lot for you and whatever they decide is never against you. Try to obey what they say. Do you chores and anything else they ask you. Do it with pride and do not create a fuss about it. Respect their rules, and don’t do things they don’t like, even when they ain’t around.

1 comment:

  1. Hi Heather,

    Wow, this is a really great list of things that you can do for your parents. It reminds me of the concept of making 'kindness go viral.' I am going to read through this list with my son, Aronui, and we will do our best to show others (especially our parents) respect and love.

    Thanks for posting this!

    Cheers, Rachel